Focusing on children's experiences during and after divorce, this updated edition offers a multidisciplinary perspective that encompasses historical, cultural, and demographic contexts. It emphasizes children's resilience while acknowledging their emotional struggles. The author explores the psychological, social, economic, and legal ramifications of divorce, identifying risk factors such as parental conflict and custody disputes. Utilizing a family systems model, he integrates research findings to assess psychological interventions for families undergoing divorce.
Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce—and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic—divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children’s resilience. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery • Why it is so hard to really make divorce work• How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating• Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks• Why parental love—and limit setting—can be the best “therapy” for kids• How to talk to children, create workable parenting schedules, and more
"A paradigm-shifting model of parenting children in two homes from an internationally recognized expert. A researcher, therapist, and mediator, Robert Emery, Ph. D., details a new approach to sharing custody with children in two homes. Huge numbers of children are affected by separation, divorce, cohabitation breakups, and childbearing outside of marriage. These children have two homes. But their parents have only one chance to protect their childhood. Building on his 2004 book The Truth About Children and Divorce and a strong evidence base, including his own research, Emery explains that a parenting plan that lasts a lifetime is one that grows and changes along with children's--and families'--developing needs. Parents can and should work together to renegotiate schedules to best meet the changing needs of children from infancy through young adult life. Divided into chapters that address the specific needs of children as they grow up, Emery: Introduces his Hierarchy of Children's Needs in Divorce Provides specific advice for successful parenting, starting with infancy and reaching into emerging adulthood Advocates for joint custody but notes that children do not count minutes and neither should parents Highlights that there is only one "side" for parents to take in divorce: the children's side Himself the father of five children, one from his first marriage, Emery brings a rare combination of personal and professional insight and guidance for every parent raising a child in two homes"-- Provided by publisher
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